"Worry is like a rocking
chair. You’re moving but you're not going anywhere."
This blog is a response to my favorite professor's question of how I deal with the 7 Rules to be Happy.
The Rules are the ff:
1. Never Hate
2. Don’t Worry
3. Live Simply
4. Expect Little
5. Give a Lot
6. Always Smile
7. Best of All Stay in Love
So, here is my attempt to discuss these great rules.
1. Never Hate.
Hate is a normal feeling. We’re born with default set of feelings. Hating something worthy to be hated is godly but hating everything is surely the other way around. I am no perfect- I hate and the story doesn't end here. I’ve been trying to constantly add value to myself and I just found out that my default setting was on “happy mode” and “all the time”. I just figured out that why change the configuration of my supposed happy life if it was already designed that way by my God? Then, I stopped hating the things that will never deserve my energy. I learned that to forgive someone is like setting a dove free and then you will realize that the imprisoned dove was you.
Hate is a normal feeling. We’re born with default set of feelings. Hating something worthy to be hated is godly but hating everything is surely the other way around. I am no perfect- I hate and the story doesn't end here. I’ve been trying to constantly add value to myself and I just found out that my default setting was on “happy mode” and “all the time”. I just figured out that why change the configuration of my supposed happy life if it was already designed that way by my God? Then, I stopped hating the things that will never deserve my energy. I learned that to forgive someone is like setting a dove free and then you will realize that the imprisoned dove was you.
2. Don’t Worry
I worry because I am normal. I don’t worry too much because I am
not abnormal. I believe that feelings were created for us to take advantage of
those feelings. I worry and so I pray then I feel immensely better. I worry
about my future and so I plan things coherently. I worry about my English and
that is why I practice more. I use it to my advantage and I won’t allow it to destroy
me. I am born victorious.
3. Live Simply
This will surely make you happy. A complex life will offer you
money and stress. Living above what you can afford will offer you
insurmountable debts and yes, ugly wrinkles too. Living simply for me means
spending wisely without losing the dream of earning more. You are not earning
for yourself-you are God’s channel of blessings to bless the needy.
4. Expect Little
Nothing is perfect until you fall in love. He was the most perfect
guy in the entire Milky Way and then I got so disappointed when I realized I
can’t have him now. I was expecting too much and I was hurting too much. I was
expecting almost paranormal things and I failed to recognize that my life is
not a fairy tale. I should do more and expect less. I should give a room for
surprises and growth. Things will not always fall according to planned, in some
occasions things even turn up more astounding.
5. Give a Lot
I give more and more love because it makes the world go round.
It’s a cliché because it’s true. Its old school but it won’t grow old. I once
offered free tutorial to a blind friend who amazingly managed to study in a
College in Davao City. To say that I was feeling so happy while teaching her will
always be an understatement. In giving you are bound to receive. Believe me, it’s
a cycle.
6.
Always Smile
I always do. When I’m nervous I smile
(not because I was losing sanity, swear!) because I enjoy the feeling. When I
can’t solve my Accounting requirement, I will just smile to my friend and she
will automatically help me. See? Aside from the fact that men love it when a
girl smiles, your body would want you to strike that genuine smile too! Think
about being healthy, think about smiling!
7.
Best of All Stay in Love
Staying
in love with my God and my church duties will make me triumphant. I will stay
in love with positive thoughts and I will stay in love with life. I carefully
choose the things I will stay in love with. I will stay in love with adventures
and not with fancy cars. I will stay in love with hymns and not with Lady Gaga.
I will stay in love with ideas and not with rumors. Again, I will stay in love
with positive thinking and not with pessimism.
I am no perfect and I won’t abuse
that reason. Should I fail, I know I will fail forward. Should I cry, I know I
will then soon have happy tears. We will only have one life and if we will live
it right, once is enough. Have happy thoughts, happy actions and happy results!
November 13, 2011 at 3:51 AM
Hi Jimnanie,
Thanks for responding to my post not to mention how you consistently label me as your favorite professor :-)
True enough, I learned new lessons from your perspective. Continue living a happy life. God bless you in your endeavors :-)
Regards,
Sir Richard