Cheap Attraction Hurts -financially,emotionally and spiritually

Posted Sunday, September 4, 2011 by deehan1914

Today, I am not stunned to hear that my best friend is heart broken ..again. 


I broke my heart years ago, and another one took months ago, just to live with my principle that I should not hurry love. I decided not to have a relationship with him because I know I was not having the right reasons to be in such tangle.



In my age, I am usually confronted with these issues -love issues. 



Most of my friends got numerous girlfriends/boyfriends while I never really had one, a fact which I am honest about.



I think (and please don't always assume I am right) , young people like me are hurt because they hurry love.



I think being single is one of the best time to grow spiritually with God.



While we are preparing to be financially stable. Equally, we must strive to be spiritually matured.



How many are thinking that a good spouse will only come from God? That a good spouse is a blessing we must work out to be truly a worthy recipient. Will God reward you the man or woman of your dreams if God thinks that you are not spiritually, emotionally and financially worthy to have one? 



If you are having a girlfriend/boyfriend now but could not imagine a family with him, why are you still with him? Isn't it a sheer waste of time?



They say I must have a boyfriend for “experience". I am sorry but I respect mankind and I won’t just play with their emotions. I sincerely think it's gruesome to ever have a relationship with that sole reason in mind.



Why are people so worried with relationships with "other" people and not minding their relationship with God?



You will never be satisfied without God.



A good pair comes from God.



Do what He wants and these things will just be added to us.



I am no prefect, I am writing now to help my self refresh my ideologies. Just like others, I do fail more than what you can imagine.
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Maybe Next Time

Posted Monday, August 22, 2011 by deehan1914


Maybe Next Time




''Two old friends meet again
Wearin’ older faces
And talk about the places they’ve been

Two old sweethearts who fell apart
Somewhere long ago
How are they to know
Someday they’d meet again
And have a need for more than reminiscin’'

-Maybe This Time, Michael Murphy







I never thought I would remain this loyal.

Sometimes I doubt if in my past life I was Hachiko.

You are still the only one that I am dreaming about each night.

You are still the one I remember each time I listen to music. This is too whimsical.

Sometimes I wonder if I will ever meet you again. How will it feel?

I wish to get over from you because I can feel you no longer care for me.

It is really sad to love the one who used to love you so much too.

I am focusing with careers. Hoping that somewhere down the road, our circumstances would amazingly

allow us to be together ..ostensibly just like in my dreams.

Yeah, I know I am still so crazy about you. Is it too bad to feel this way?

If it is not you, even if I deeply wish it would be you, I would hereby conclude that indeed..not everything

I want is given to me.

Perhaps , you are too good to be mine. Perhaps, someone who can cook better is good for you.

I would forever be jealous of her.

Owh.. How old am I? hahaha I wish to get over of these stuffs.Oh Good God..help! :)


Have a Happy Day Everyday Everyone!
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Why I love Iligan City

Posted Thursday, August 18, 2011 by deehan1914







I have always known that Iligan is wonderful. The captivating waterfalls, the diversity of traders , the pool of students from different regions in the island, the mosques , the  intriguing reported wars and it is where my best friend lives. I feel lucky I was able to visit this City for 4 years regularly and I hope to continually do my visitation.

After finishing College at MSU Marawi City, I felt happy to be back and be with my herd of church mates.We decided to plunge our selves in one of the most popular waterfall in Iligan and that would be Tinago Waterfall.

From the City proper you would need to ride on a Jeepney ( one of the best part ,HAHA!) then be transported by a motorcycle  and have the joy of walking along the whimsical forest hiding the waterfall at its heart.

The walking caused me thrills because I needed to endure the almost 300 ( oh, I'm not good with counting ) stair steps down. That trudge was deadly! Look at my crocs!





Along the way you will see a lot of coconut trees making the scenery very tropical and you will feel happy you are still young and can enjoy the inconvenience.


There are some areas which I think my friends in Hogwarts would like to roam around (my friends who are in the Forbidden Forrest, been there? ) Just look at this photo which is always making me feel cool.


What do you think? Is it nice or very nice? Hahaa.. One thing I LOVE here was that the entrance fee was just 10.00 pesos.If you have 1 USD then 4 persons can now enter. And to top it all, renting a life jacket will cost you 25.00 pesos only. Now, ring me and let's fly back to Iligan!



I really enjoyed talking with my friends while on that floating bamboo called " Gakit" (uhh I almost forgot the term ). There is a rope there connected to the other end of the waterfall and friends can try pulling together so that together, on the Gakit, they can move closer to the waterfall. That's teamwork, boss!






And yes, I know jaws will be all dropped . My plain words could never amount to something as splendid as this.




I sooo love the slippery  Gakit. Extra challenge Auntie!





If I can transform into a waterfall, I want to be Tinago Falls.





You can't swim there without a life jacket ( I think that's sad ).





A lot of tourist are visiting this waterfall. When I went there , there were like 2 or 3 foreigners.The one in the photo? Ow.. He's mine! Hahah Well, he is a good friend.






The scene will look like that if you are seated at the benches provided for visitors.






Well, just like other bloggers, I will never forget to post some of my best pictures from that trip. You must be green with envy now. Hahaa... Please visit Tinago Waterfall .I can help !



:)Matane!
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Location: Iligan City, Philippines

My Joyful Saturday

Posted Tuesday, August 2, 2011 by deehan1914
My Joyful Saturday


"If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater
and lesser persons than yourself."
-Desiderata
Author - Max Ehrmann (1872 - 1945)



I have been asking others about what they think is going on with my life. It is not that I am the kind of person who listens to everything they say but I think I must hear them so that I can have an idea of how remarkably strange and unique ideas from each persons are.

For the joy of learning many things, I listen even more.

I noticed that many think my Saturday life is so stressfull. Yes, very true. They also think that I am making my body so tired and that I am not having any "Lazy Day". Uh-ow!The verity of that statement is like 80% . Moreover, I also learned that they think my Saturday is a useless day. That part, I am thrilled to know why.Life is really interesting.

So, before I go ahead. Let me tell you what is happening every Saturday.

Every Saturday, I wake up 2 am and take a bath then start my 3-4 hours journey to Davao City to attend graduate school.I am having my MBA . Our lessons last 7:00 am until 7 pm with 1 hour lunch break. At the end of the day, I needed to go home because I have some duties in the church by Sunday dawn.

Last Saturday, My MBA professor encouraged me to quit school and start my own business. He spent almost an hour of discussing why we should quit. Can you imagine that?

I agree, businessman don't go to graduate school and be educated by professors who don't have businesses themselves. That graduate school is another high-scale FACTORY  of employees. That was shaking!

I really wanted to become a University professor. I started my small business alongside with my job and then I am attending graduate school plus I do pray everyday in hopes that I will become eventually a professor. I am so in love with the joy only "learning and teaching" can offer.

Is it too bad if I won't quit? Is it too bad if I will stay?

Having an MBA degree is my good chance to become an instructor and then eventually a Professor.I know I must make my small business gigantic so that I can be a good example of those who practice what they preach. I will not be like those business major instructors who are teaching business solely based on books. I swear I never make my students memorize word meanings verbatim!

After all, I like listening to the opinions of others.but it never means I will follow all of it. I have my heart and mind which has its unique desire. My circumstance, core gifts and "calling" is not on becoming the world's wealthiest bu I am convinced it is on being a real Entrepreneur and an inspiring Professor. Above all of this, I am certain that my primary duty is to serve and glorify God.


A blessed day everyday everyone!
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I love You Grandpa

Posted Tuesday, June 14, 2011 by deehan1914

I love You Grandpa
*note: I posted this on my FS and FB years ago..I am posting it again here for you to be reminded of the simple things in life....Before you read..please have sometime to think about your grandparents...Think of that sweet way they smile upon seeing you



Yes, honestly I am now sad. ..
Sad that I am not there now near my ill grandfather… I wish to comfort him and give him my super hug like what we used to do. I wish to go home and I wish to have our afternoon walks again. I miss the way he calls my name.
I am sad because I am afraid i might have brought him a lot of worries and I am afraid I am running out of time in showing him I don't mean to disappoint him. I am afraid my mea culpa is not enough.

I'm currently full of regrets.

I should have not screamed at my naughty brother knowing that it would break his heart hearing his only two grandchildren fighting. I should have been calmer.
I should have not gone home late during high school days so that we should have had our afternoon walks together with his dog. I was busy with school things and I failed to realize what a bliss it should have been to my grandfather if we walked together as he wished.
I should have been more mindful of his request. I know I was wrong when I prioritized my friends.
and above all....I should have not made him worry about me when I seemed to be a brat.

I am afraid I might not have enough time to show him that I miss our old days.
I am afraid I might not have enough time to make him feel that his only granddaughter cared for him beyond words could say.
I am afraid I am not doing now what should be done.

But this I am certain,

He loves me even if I sometimes disappoint him.
I guess it is not right to feel so sad.
I should be glad that He is my super Tatay...
I feel blessed in the grandeur way at times this thing crosses my mind- My family is amazing...

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* My grandfather died a year after I wrote that.. and he was buried on the same date that I celebrated my birthday.. There was no other available date  for friends and relatives to come  that time..except Aug 16, 2009...STRANGE!!

Still.. I believed that God arranged it that way so that... on my every birthday celebration... I will always remember how triumphant my grandfather  was... that his death was  not something I should always consider as a sad thing...(though I still caught myself feeling that way even up to now)... My Tatay finished his race... and his life was beautiful... how about mine? How about yours? How will we make it beautiful?

I will always remember my grandfather... hopefully like the way he used to remember me when it was already meal time.

* Tatay/Lolo means Grandfather in Filipino Language.







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Graduating: A Marawi City Context

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Graduating: A Marawi City Context
*note: This was written years ago, when I was about to have that whimsical graduation march


One of the numerous mosque located at MSU Marawi City Campus






It has been four years of seemingly endless trudge and right at this very moment the Lanao lake looked more beautiful than when I first laid my very eyes on it.




The Administration Building which sports the historic Okir design



 It was on the month of  May years ago when due to the failure of a college assurance plan I was left with no choice but to try my luck here in Marawi City and was blessed to be in one of the premiere state university in Mindanao, the Mindanao State University. Honestly, I had no plans of being on this university because I am from Compostela Valley Province and this place is 16 hours away from home, not to mention the intriguing stories flying around the country and across decades about this province.






The covered walk where I usually bumped with some church mates 

 This place has been the training ground of most of the smartest and talented young Surigaonons (whose dialect always fascinates me), Butuanons, and those who hail from the distant Palawan, Tawi-tawi and Basilan. Equally, this province has been known as the training grounds of the country’s famous rebels and in its mountains where probably their sons and daughters who are my age dreaming of what other places look like. Our classroom, in most cases, was a pool of students having different dialects even though most of us were from Mindanao. Every day was a revelation of cultural differences and most significantly, another day towards cultural understanding.




This scenery is divine!

 I know it was not only by sheer luck that I was never one of those being reported as kidnapped (just like one of my favorite Biology teacher), mobbed, rampant hold-ups and the like. Being in this place requires higher dose of discipline and a sharp intuition for danger, things which I will be always thankful of practicing. One is supposed to be not roaming around too early nor too late. What   is early and late maybe relative but when I arrived here, I understood what is the strict definition of it. That means you have to get your share of the thing called dinner at 5th street by 6, have your photocopies by 7 and dormitories are closed by 8. In the morning, only P.E classes starts by 6 am and the climate was always conducive for learning (and sleeping). I was told not to go out too early nor too late because skilled hold-up enthusiasts are mostly roaming around that time. I guess they were wrong. I had more friends who were victims in broad daylight. Perhaps, the evil men changed schedules. One might wonder why plenty of us liked it here when we can insist of not staying here given the above stated challenging scenarios.




The MSU Grandstand stands as a silent witness to the scenery facing it 

I think I cannot represent the entire MSU populace but still, my answers are the following: first, there is no place as culturally and at the same time academically challenging as in this place here in the Philippines. The MSU system just produced the first female Meranao who topped in the Bar exam plus numerous engineering, fisheries, and social works folks who made to the top lists in their respective Board exams.  Second, the sceneries here are all appearing unique to me. The “Sleeping lady” across the Lake is a must see. Third, perhaps, just because I was left with no other choices, there is no other challenging place to me as this place. Looking back, it was just like yesterday that I was so curious about the amplified unfamiliar Islamic call for prayer, it was just like last week that I chilled and enjoyed the fog and it was just like last month that I met and bonded with the truthfully promising people from Mindanao’s cultural minority groups.





The MSU College of Law loves the color yellow very much

 I am writing because I am happy. I am happy because I know my parents will soon come here and wear those smiles that I have been longing to see. I am writing because I am hoping that my parents are proud of me even if I will not graduate cum laude (I will just graduate on time). I am writing because I am feeling so blessed about all I have been through and I am feeling so good about being that next successful entrepreneur. And to top it all, I am writing because this has always been my way of expressing me.








The Dimaporo Gymnasium was named after the popular clan Dimaporo


In plenty ways my classmates and I were different but it never meant that we never found common grounds or arrived at a mutually satisfactory resolution because I have just proven to myself that we could. I have high respects to my friends who are practicing Islam ways not only because they have given me respects when I practice my Christian ways but because I was taught that it was the right thing to do and hence, I will continue believing and practicing. Still, respect is different from tolerance.








The Peace Plaza who witnessed my efforts during our several Product Exhibits 



The exact feeling I am feeling now could not be contained within the framework of one word. The feeling is the summation of joy, pride, excitement, curiosity, eagerness and hopefulness. I had my share of carrying a typical state university student woes and I am finally done facing the ugly faces of confusing questionnaires.




This is where I was usually seated as I scribbled my thoughts in some parchments



I hope to see the fulfillment of my dreams in my “list of dreams” one by one as I continue to license myself to best attract opportunities. I will not cry because my stay here is about to end, I’d rather smile because all those things that happened shaped my heart and soul into becoming this optimistic risk-taker.



This is what you can see when you are seated at the second floor of the MSU Main Library,nostalgic beyond words
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Location: Marawi City, Philippines

Why I Love Musicians

Posted Wednesday, June 8, 2011 by deehan1914

Nella Fantasia

"In my fantasy I see a fair world,
Everyone lives in peace and honesty.
I dream of souls that are always free,
Like a cloud that floats,
Full of humanity in the depths.

In my fantasy I see a bright world
Night there is less darkness.
I dream of souls that are always free,
Like a cloud that floats.

In my fantasy exists a warm wind,
That breathes into the city, as a friend.
I dream of souls that are always free,
Like a cloud that floats,
Full of humanity in the depths."


Here is a humble man that touched me deeply today. I spent time looking for the English translation of the song he sang which perfectly moved me and yes, I was satisfied and in tears.

I never thought that all of my worries and insecurities will all tarnish during my 30 minutes break today. I usually complain that a 30 minutes break is too short for a stressed worker like me. Of course, like the billions of other people today, I enjoy my facebook very much. My curious mind and inquisitive spirit brought me to a youtube link and it was Korea's Got Talent show. This franchise is a sure blockbuster! This Korean reality television show premiered on 4 June 2011 on the tvN Asia. The show was based on the Got Talent series format that originated with Britain's Got Talent. This is the show's first series in Korea. It is hosted by Grant Denyer, with Park Kolleen, Jang Jin and Song Yun-ah acting as judges. Undeniably, the show became phenomenal after Sung-Bong Choi's appearance .The fame and love he got will surely be not equivocal.

Sung-Bong Choi is an orphan who ranaway from an orphanage because he said he was beaten there. He described that he was like a fly. He lived in public toilets, stairs and pavements. He survived by selling gums on the road. He is currently doing manual works and he finds singing the sole escape to his challenging arena.  I was amazed when I learned that he ran away when he was 5 years old and he survived the streets for 15 years now.

His fascination began when he saw a vocalist in a bar singing soulfully. I am thrilled to know who that vocalist was. I think the vocalist never realized how he influenced a young street vendor. I want to be someone like that vocalist.

The video gave me Goosebumps and it was moving beyond words. Others argued that the story is a fake; well I must say that if it is really like that, then I am still thankful because I am moved. I don’t care if it was untrue! It brought emotions that I really appreciate- emotions that I don’t get to feel every day. The emotion is so strange that I don’t even know how to name it and I am afraid that the description will never be contained within the framework of words.

That is the main reason why I love books, music, and of course those people behind it. How joyful is it to meet people who remained humble and positive amidst the severely sick world? How lovely is it to have the ability to inspire others without even trying so hard? How wonderful is it to touch hearts? A fiction or not, I love the video very much!

Today, I wonder if I have become a silent inspiration for anyone. I wonder if I was able to touch hearts. Certainly, my life should be in that way.

I want to meet and congratulate the vocalist at the bar that Sung-Bong Choi saw and then I want to hug them both.


*Here is the link*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BewknNW2b8Y&feature=share
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